This topic is a sensitive topic for almost all people. I would say 75% of empaths have some kind of crutch. The percentage could be higher. I think I’m being conservative. If you don’t know you’re an empath you probably turn to things to numb the pain from the outside world. If you are an empath you know what’s causing it and you do the same thing.

There a many forms of substance abuse. I’m not just talking about alcohol and drugs, there is also food. Have you ever said “I’m an emotional eater or I eat when I’m stressed”! I know, I’m an emotional eater as well. Quite a few empaths are overweight because of this issue. When you have a bad day or something triggers you to be upset you look for things to numb that feeling. I’m guilty of having a glass or 2 of wine after work sometimes to help me relax. I have a family member that is in recovery right now for alcohol and drugs. She’s a super sensitive empath. The hardest thing to deal with to get off these habits is to learn to deal with the emotion or stress and channel it another way. Learn to meditate. Also stress makes empaths super tired so take a nap and go to escape from the outside world. This blog is also reminded me of finding better ways to handle the negative influences of my stress and day to day life.

A few things I do to help are to take a salt bath, go into nature or get away for the weekend. Find a spiritual retreat that resonates with your soul. I don’t watch the news. Most of the time I hear about issues in the world from Facebook or friends. The news is so negative! You sitting there worrying about the world’s issues don’t help any of us. Worry sends negative energy out into the world and the world needs positive thoughts. That is really another blog is to watch your thoughts.

Have a great week everyone. Im actually going to my spiritual retreat for a few days so no TV or phones! Just nature and a rushing creek! Love and Light!!


Through very many years I dealt with a lot of fear. When you’re an empath you have abilities to see, feel and maybe see things others can’t and it can create fear. How do I deal with this? What if you don’t want to see, hear or feel? Well you can shut it down somewhat. To do that, just ask. I asked not to physically see because it scared me too much. Now I still see but in a gentler way. I see in my mind’s eye. You get a flash of what you would see. After practice you learn to be able to tell this from your imagination. The same goes for spirit messages. You might get a message and think that’s your subconscious. Spirit messages are like quick little bleeps that come in and out kind of like a butterfly. Your imagination thoughts stick in your mind and you hold onto them.

I had a lot of fear growing up dealing with a lot of the paranormal. I want you to know that nothing can hurt you unless you allow it. When you ask for protection, believe with your entire being that it is so. There is no doubt in your mind that you are safe but you have to believe it. If there is one little nagging doubt in your gut it will know (or whatever you are asking for protection from). This is why I felt like it did not work for so long. I would ask but that little nagging voice would ask me “are you sure? “ Believe in your angels, guides and teachers. Nothing can penetrate the light. You are like a lighthouse in the night. That’s why I stress so much to shield and ground!!! Lower energies will be attracted to you because of your light in their darkness. Part of the spiritual growth and awakening is dealing with these energies and it may not be so pleasant. People say “oh I want to do that or I want to be open”! Well with that request will come responsibilities and things that are not of the light. I discussed this in an earlier blog.

If fear is an issue for you, find a totem that will make you feel empowered. Find and necklace with a stone you are drawn to or a bracelet or ring. Carry a certain stone in your pocket. Tigers Eye, Obsidian and Turquoise are great protection stones. Amplify them with a piece of quartz also. Remember to cleanse them on a regular basis. Just know that you have guides and teachers and angels protecting you and all you have to do is ask. They are there just for you. I hope this helps and I know how this feels because actually just within the past year I got a grip on my fears!!!!


It’s been a few weeks since I’ve blogged due to self-care which is the topic I’m talking about today.

Self-care is so important for empaths to be able to function in a toxic world and remain healthy mentally and physically. Empaths tire very easily so extra rest is vital. Naps and one day a week to sleep in can be very beneficial. I work in a very busy office and at lunch I go to my car because I need solitude and quiet. Some of my coworkers understand and some do not. I don’t worry about the ones that don’t!

Emapths have to completely unplug or we become irritable and over tired. Stepping away and just closing the door is the best way to do it. Salt baths using Epsom salt clears out our auras and grounds us. Unplug in nature. Go camping, go to a state park or just sit in the backyard. Pay attention to the birds and simple wildlife. If you go on vacation and there’s a lot of stimulation go take a nap or find a quiet spot to de-stress. Over stimulation makes empaths very cranky and you just don’t know why you feel that way, we also need extra sleep.


This post is one of the most important posts and direction that I can give you. So you’ve read the introduction and you have felt like you’re an empath. Most or all of the bullet points you can associate with.

So when you’re and empath you’re like a beacon of light out into the spirit world. You also are very sensitive to energy and what others put out. You can walk into a room and immediately your mood changes because of the energy that is put out by others in that room. When you are close enough to someone you pick up on negative and positive energy that is in their aura field. If its bad it can make you sick or can zap your energy or even put you in a bad mood. I have a hard time going to festivals and malls because I’m exhausted when I come home.

Spirits also see your light and you attract them. A spirit can drain your energy and also affect your mood. Shielding and grounding is something you have to do if you want to function well in this world. I’ve had clients tell me that doing this 2 x day has helped their depression and anxiety. Empaths also can suffer from substance abuse because they’re trying to cover up all the emotions and energies that they feel.


Here’s how you shield. There are several ways. This needs to be done in the morning and at night before bed.

Close your eyes and take several deep breaths. On the 3rd one breathe in and see a light in your heart expand with each inhale in. Each time you breathe in this light expands to encompass way past your body.

The second way is to take several deep breaths. See a blanket of light at your feet. Bend over and grab the blanket with our hands. Pull it up over your head and down your back until it goes under your feet. Feel it go under your feet. As you are doing this say a mantra. You can say The Lord’s Prayer or whatever empowers you. I am safe, I am protected and am secure in the light etc.


See light coming down into the top of your head and through your body out your feet into the core of the earth. See it latching onto the bright red core.

See yourself with your back against a tree. See your feet melting into the roots of the tree and down into the earth.

You can also do what’s called Earthing. Go stand outside in the grass and the earth pulls the energy down and grounds you automatically.

Don’t overthink these steps. Empath love to overthink things and worry if its correct. These steps only take a minute to do. To remember to do these out a note on your mirror to remind you when you are getting ready and going to bed.


Tonight I’m starting my new series about being an empath. This can be a gift and a curse!! I’ve been an empath all my life. When I was young I always heard “You’re too sensitive”! “You need a thick skin”! Well actually I still hear it but I don’t think there’s something wrong with me now! I know what it is! Empaths can also jump jobs because we don’t do well with confrontation. When the going gets rough we’re outta there! I’m going to list a checklist to find out if you are an Empath.  In the coming weeks will talk about handling our emotions, shielding and grounding, meditation and just plan how to cope.

  1. Have you been labeled overly sensitive and take things personally?
  2. Do arguments make you ill?
  3. Do you feel like you don’t fit in?
  4. Am I drained by events and crowds like going to the mall or festivals?
  5. Are you over stimulated by noise?
  6. Are you sensitive to chemicals
  7. Do you take your own car to places so you have control and can leave early if you want to?
  8. Are you an emotional eater?
  9. Do you have a low pain threshold?
  10. Do you absorb other people’s emotions?
  11. Do you need to recuperate after a big social event?
  12. Do you prefer small groups to large ones?
  13. Do you suffer from depression and anxiety?

If you answer to even half of these you may be an Empath! How exciting! What exactly is an Empath? An Empath is someone that is sensitive to energy vibrations and also most likely have abilities. They’re sensitive to the moon phases and any changes in the universe. It’s a curse when you suffer from depression and anxiety and can be very debilitating. A lot of Empaths may be substance abusers because they feel too much. Stay tuned to next weeks blog and we will talk about shielding and grounding!!


We are ending this blog unit on the last but not least crown chakra. It is the 7th chakra and is located at the top of the head. It gives us access to higher states of consciousness and gets us in touch with the universe. It is also referred to as Sahasrara. The color is my favorite, violet or purple.

As we immerse ourselves in the energy of this chakra we feel a state of blissful union and spiritual ecstasy. It gives us clarity and wisdom. Some say it’s a gateway to the divine self.

Imbalances are being disconnected to spirit, and constant cynicism regarding what is sacred. An overactive chakra can cause obsessive attachment to spiritual matters, closed mindedness and living in your head (being out of touch).

Beautiful crystals are associated with this chakra. They are Amethyst, Quartz crystal, Selenite and Moonstone. All of these crystals look ethereal to me and it makes sense that they are associated with this chakra.

People talk about wanting to be open with this chakra more than any other. You can open this chakra with meditation and prayer. If this is something you want to do then I ask you to proceed with caution. There can be consequences to any opening for more energy. You will have to shield and ground. You might have trouble sleeping and have vivid dreams. You might open the 3rd eye and begin to see things good and bad. Please research before you go this path because it can be something you might not really want in the end.

Next week we will start a new topic series about Exploring the Empath!!!


Today’s blog is about the 3rd eye or brow chakra. It is also known as the Ajna Chakra. This chakra is the gate that leads to inner realms and spaces of higher consciousness. People that use this chakra are known as psychics or seers. It is the 6th chakra.

The color of this chakra is purple of bluish purple. It can also be seen as a translucent purple or bluish white. It has the soft radiance of the moon.

It is associated with the pineal gland in charge of regulating biorhythms, including sleep and wake time. The pineal gland is a gland located in the brain that is a center of attention because of its perception and effect of light or mystical states of consciousness. It is sensitive to changes in lighting. Many people talk of opening the pineal gland and expanding their psychic abilities. This is what they’re referring to is the 3rd eye chakra. This chakra also is the connection to wisdom, insight and motivates inspiration and creativity.

Imbalances of this chakra are feeling stuck in the daily grind with feeling that there are no options to move on. Lack of clarity and spiritual rejection are other imbalances. Over active symptoms are manifesting and indulging in fantasies of a spiritual nature.

Stones that aid in the 3rd eye chakra are amethyst, black obsidian and purple fluorite. These are 3 of my favorite stones! I use the obsidian for protection and the amethyst helps with sleep and healing. Fluorite is a very eye appealing stone. It has swirls of purple and green. This stone helps with emotions and chaos.

This chakra is one of the most talked about chakras because people always want to become more open and deepen their abilities. You can work with this chakra with meditation and exercises to strengthen and become more open but I do place a warning on wanting to do so. Becoming very open can bring experiences and responsibilities that will challenge you. You might see and feel more things in the spirit world that can be overwhelming and frightening. You may have to protect yourself more with grounding and shielding. You might have trouble sleeping. Please proceed with caution and respect this chakra with seriousness. It is good for this chakra to be open just like the rest of the chakras but strengthening this one can have consequences.


The throat chakra is the fifth chakra. It is also known as Vishuddha. The throat chakra is located at the center of the neck at the level of the throat. It is the passage of the energy between the lower parts of the body and the head. The function is communication and expression.

The throat chakra color is a beautiful shade of blue turquoise or aqua marine blue.

Characteristics are verbal and non-verbal communication, connection with the etheric realms and intuitive abilities. Opening of this chakra connects you to spirit.

A blocked chakra can lead to feelings of insecurity, timidy and introversion. An overactive may lead to gossip, nonstop talking and being verbally aggressive and mean. Telling lies is another imbalance.

Stones that aid in this chakra are any beautiful blue ones. Turquoise and lapis are two common ones.

Turquoise dispels negativity and Lapis is also known as the stone of truth.


Today we are going to talk about one of the most important chakras and that is the heart chakra. This chakra is an amazing shade of green. It is also known as Anahata. This chakra is all about love. All of us need more love in our life and it is so important for the planet.

It is the wellspring of love, warmth, compassion and joy. It is the center of your deep bonds with other beings, your sense of caring and compassion. The energy allows us to recognize that we are part of something much larger and greater. It means living your life with loving kindness and compassion towards others. Others can feel your love and warmth.

When this chakra is open energy is flowing freely, you are not only loving to others but loving to yourself. You need to learn to say no and take care of yourself.

When this chakra is blocked you are hard, cold and bitter. You have very little compassion and tolerance for others. When I work at the Awakenings Fairs most of the people that are on my table have heart chakra blockages. All of us have been through some type of emotional pain and this chakra needs to be cleared out on a regular basis.

Stones that help this chakra are pink rose quartz, pink Rhodochrosite and green crystals such as Adventurine and green emeralds. As stated before you can wear these crystals, keep them in your pocket or meditate with them on your heart chakra to help open it up.

The Solar Plexus Chakra

Today we are going to focus on the 3rd Chakra or the solar plexus Chakra. It’s also known as Manipura.

It is located between the naval and solar plexus and is the core of our personality, ego and identity.

This Chakra is the center of your self-esteem, your willpower, self-discipline as well as warmth and personality. It transforms inertia into action and movement and to meet challenges head on. The color is a beautiful bright yellow.

Having an overactive Chakra can cause emotional outbursts and can make you overly stressed.

Someone with a blocked solar plexus Chakra is passive and inactive-allowing life to pass them by.

Every time you judge or criticize yourself you deplete this Chakra and weaken your willpower.

Unblocking this Chakra is about self-love and acceptance.

Crystals for this Chakra are all about yellow and warm colors. It blends with the lower Chakras. Tigers eye, yellow jasper and lemon quartz are some of the most popular when working with this Chakra.

As mentioned before u can wear these crystals in jewelry, hold them in meditation or keep them in your pocket.